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Group: How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life
Title Group: How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life
Author
Publisher Avid Reader Press / Simon & Schuster
Release DateOctober 27, 2020
Category New Release
Total Pages 288 pages
ISBN 1982154616
Book Rating out of 5 from reviews
Language EN, ES, BE, DA ,DE , NL and FR
Book Review & Summary:

A REESE’S BOOK CLUB PICK “Hilarious and engrossing.” —People “This unrestrained memoir is a transporting experience and one of the most startlingly hopeful books I have ever read.” —Lisa Taddeo, New York Times bestselling author of Three Women “A wild ride…It gets pretty raw.” —The Boston Globe The refreshingly original debut memoir of a guarded, over-achieving, self-lacerating young lawyer who reluctantly agrees to get psychologically and emotionally naked in a room of six complete strangers—her psychotherapy group—and in turn finds human connection, and herself. Christie Tate had just been named the top student in her law school class and finally had her eating disorder under control. Why then was she driving through Chicago fantasizing about her own death? Why was she envisioning putting an end to the isolation and sadness that still plagued her despite her achievements? Enter Dr. Rosen, a therapist who calmly assures her that if she joins one of his psychotherapy groups, he can transform her life. All she has to do is show up and be honest. About everything—her eating habits, childhood, sexual history, etc. Christie is skeptical, insisting that that she is defective, beyond cure. But Dr. Rosen issues a nine-word prescription that will change everything: “You don’t need a cure. You need a witness.” So begins her entry into the strange, terrifying, and ultimately life-changing world of group therapy. Christie is initially put off by Dr. Rosen’s outlandish directives, but as her defenses break down and she comes to trust Dr. Rosen and to depend on the sessions and the prescribed nightly phone calls with various group members, she begins to understand what it means to connect. Group is a deliciously addictive read, and with Christie as our guide—skeptical of her own capacity for connection and intimacy, but hopeful in spite of herself—we are given a front row seat to the daring, exhilarating, painful, and hilarious journey that is group therapy—an under-explored process that breaks you down, and then reassembles you so that all the pieces finally fit.

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Group by Christie Tate

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Group by Christie Tate

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Category Biography & Autobiography
Total Pages 304
ISBN 9781471197895
Language English, Spanish, and French
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A REESE’S BOOK CLUB PICK 'Every page of this incredible memoir by Christie Tate had me thinking, “I wish I had read this book when I was 25. It would have helped me so much!”' Reese Witherspoon ‘This unrestrained memoir is a transporting experience and one of the most startlingly hopeful books I have ever read. It will make you want to get better, whatever better means for you.’ Lisa Taddeo, New York Times bestselling author of Three Women For fans of Three Women and Everything I Know About Love comes a refreshingly original memoir about self-discovery, loneliness and love. A guarded young lawyer reluctantly joins a psychotherapy group where she has to share her innermost thoughts with six complete strangers. In turn she finds human connection, and herself. “What’s going to happen to me when I start group?” “All of your secrets are going to come out.” Christie Tate has just been named the top student in her law school class and seems to finally have got her eating disorder under control. So why is she driving through Chicago fantasising about her own death? Desperate, she joins Dr Rosen’s psychotherapy group, and through his unconventional methods, he challenges everything she thought she knew, about herself and others. In group, secrets are not allowed. This means telling a group of strangers everything – about her struggle with bulimia, her failed sex life, her overwhelming sense of loneliness and acute longing for a relationship. And as she keeps sharing her thoughts and feelings and listens to the others doing the same, her life slowly begins to change. This is a deliciously compelling read, and an intimate journey through the daring, exhilarating, painful, and hilarious journey that is group therapy – a process that breaks you down, and then reassembles you so that all the pieces finally fit. Praise for Group ‘This book will remind you how to come back to yourself even when you want to give up, make you laugh, make you cry, help you breathe. This book will save lives’ Lidia Yuknavitch ‘Real transformation is not for the faint of heart, and in these pages Christie Tate captures her evolution in all its misery and hilarity, along with the beauty of bearing witness to one another as we grow.’ Sarah Hepola ‘Christie Tate takes us on a journey that's heartbreaking and hilarious, surprising and redemptive – and, ultimately, a testament to the power of connection.’ Lori Gottlie

Group by Christie Tate

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The refreshingly original debut memoir of a guarded, over-achieving, self-lacerating young lawyer who reluctantly agrees to get psychologically and emotionally naked in a room of six complete strangers - her psychotherapy group - and in turn finds human connection, and herself. Christie Tate had just been named the top student in her law school class and finally had her eating disorder under control. Why then was she driving through Chicago fantasising about her own death? Why was she envisioning putting an end to the isolation and sadness that still plagued her in spite of her achievements? Enter Dr. Rosen, a therapist who calmly assures her that if she joins one of his psychotherapy groups, he can transform her life. All she has to do is show up and be honest. About everything - her eating habits, childhood, sexual history, etc. Christie is skeptical, insisting that that she is defective, beyond cure. But Dr. Rosen issues a nine-word prescription that will change everything: “You don’t need a cure, you need a witness.” So begins her entry into the strange, terrifying, and ultimately life-changing world of group therapy. Christie is initially put off by Dr. Rosen’s outlandish directives, but as her defenses break down and she comes to trust Dr. Rosen and to depend on the sessions and the prescribed nightly phone calls with various group members, she begins to understand what it means to connect. Group is a deliciously addictive read, and with Christie as our guide - skeptical of her own capacity for connection and intimacy, but hopeful in spite of herself - we are given a front row seat to the daring, exhilarating, painful, and hilarious journey that is group therapy - an under-explored process that breaks you down, and then reassembles you so that all the pieces finally fit.

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Summary Analysis Of Group by SNAP Summaries

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PLEASE NOTE: This is a summary and analysis of the book and not the original book. SNAP Summaries is wholly responsible for this content and is not associated with the original author in any way. If you are the author, publisher, or representative of the original work, please contact info[at]snapsummaries[dot]com with any questions or concerns. If you'd like to purchase the original book, please paste this link in your browser: https://amzn.to/3nNrisH In Group, Christie Tate documents her struggles with loneliness and a long-term eating disorder and narrates how an eccentric therapist and his small group of clients gave her a new lease on life. What does this SNAP Summary Include? - Synopsis of the original book - Key takeaways from each chapter - How keeping secrets hurts relationships and individual well-being - How vulnerability is the antidote to loneliness and feelings of unbelonging - Editorial Review - Background on Christie Tate About the Original Book: Group is Christie Tate’s raw and brutally honest account of the years the Chicago-based writer spent in Dr. Rosen’s psychotherapy groups and the transformation she experienced as a result. At the start, Tate is a recovering bulimic harboring the deep conviction that she is unlovable and repressing suicidal thoughts. When she joins Dr. Rosen’s groups, she learns to overcome her fear of being truly seen and begins to open up to her group mates about her troubled childhood, disordered eating, and other aspects of her life that her old self would fight to keep hidden. When everything comes out, she finally gets out of her own way and starts connecting—first with herself, then with Dr. Rosen and her group mates, and then with colleagues and other people around her. DISCLAIMER: This book is intended as a companion to, not a replacement for, Group. SNAP Summaries is wholly responsible for this content and is not associated with the original author in any way. If you are the author, publisher, or representative of the original work, please contact info[at]snapsummaries.com with any questions or concerns. Please follow this link: https://amzn.to/3nNrisH to purchase a copy of the original book.

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I watch him watching us, imagining how he would take me. I send him the message with my eyes. This is who I am. I am Veronica Franco. I am a COURTESAN. I court the cultural elite for fame and fortune, giving my body to many. And I'm good. So very good. After all, I was taught by my mother, and mother always knows best. How else to please the future King of France than with the imaginative use of Murano glass? How else to fulfil the desires of all yet keep my sense of self-worth? But when disaster strikes and my life begins to unravel, I'll have to ask myself one question: Is it too late to give my heart to just one man? Set in Venice 16th Century. Advisory: sensuously erotic. 18+ standalone.

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Author Craig McLay
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Category Bookstores
Total Pages 324
ISBN 0987947842
Language English, Spanish, and French
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*** Winner of the 2012 Independent eBook Award for best Literary Fiction! *** Village Books is a local institution...which is good, because most of the staff probably belong in one. The manager's addiction to WebMD has turned him into a closeted hypochondriac. The cashier's husband may have just gone AWOL with a small arsenal of fragmentary explosive devices. The fiction lead is buying urine on the black market. Trying to hold it all together is the store's long-suffering assistant manager, who is spinning his wheels in retail while he waits for something better to come along. That something better may be Leah Dashwood, an aspiring actress and new assistant manager with an ambitious plan to transform the store and its staff in a way that will turn their carefully disordered world on its head.

Title Workbook for Group
Author W C E
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Release Date 2020-11-03
Category
Total Pages 88
ISBN 9798557893947
Language English, Spanish, and French
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Are you ready to experience an under-explored process that breaks you down, and then reassembles you so that all the pieces finally fit. Finally!!! A companion workbook to complement the mind-blowing information and teachings from the original book to get you into the strange, terrifying, and ultimately life-changing world of group therapy This timeless lessons from Christie guides you on the path to end isolation and sadness in order to live your best life Without a conscious effort and dedication, achieving the goals from the original book is impossible. This book provides a good self-assessment guide with penetrating insights for you and is designed to help provoke your thought and opens up deeper understanding into the original text. Are you ready to make that commitment and dedication to find the answer to our insufficiency and insecurity and get 100% value from the original book? Scroll up and Buy this book now to begin to make positive changes

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Kerry Sanderson's life is falling apart. He's crushing himself to fit into the boxes others have put him in: dutiful son, good boyfriend, real man. But even the small rebellions he's fought for himself-moving into a sketchy part of town and becoming an exotic dancer-aren't giving him the freedom he needs. Ewyn Garrity, a security guard at the gay club where Kerry dances, has found himself in protecting others. Everyone thinks he's straight, but Ewyn doesn't fit into simple boxes, either. When he meets Kerry, he makes a not completely innocent offer of company after work. Ewyn and Kerry hit it off, each finding something he desperately needs in the other. But when Kerry is forced to confront the pain and self-doubt that keep him crushed in his boxes, he's afraid that no one, not even Ewyn, will be able to love who he is when he finally, truly becomes Kerry. (M/M, M/GQ)

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Release Date 2016-10-06
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Omnibus Edition of All Six Books in the Mutation Z SeriesEbola, one of the most feared of the hemorrhagic diseases, begins spreading across the borders of countries in West Africa. Soon after, the disease mutates into the "Z" or Zombie Virus. Journalist Hunter Morgan uncovers a disturbing connection between Chen-Zamora Pharmaceuticals and this mutation. Further investigation reveals a web of sinister intrigue connecting the pharmaceutical company to a treatment and research camp in West Africa, U.S. government officials, the CDC and the World Health Organization. Racing against time to find a cure, Hunter and several scientists go underground in order to hide from powerful forces trying to silence them forever.

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Title Secrets and Lies
Author Jane Isay
Publisher Anchor
Release Date 2014-01-07
Category Self-Help
Total Pages 208
ISBN 9780385534154
Language English, Spanish, and French
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By the author of Walking on Eggshells, a compellingly readable journey into the realm of family secrets, offering lessons and insights for those who are hiding the truth and those who discover what has long been hidden. Secrets, large and small, are a fact of human life. This book explores the impact of keeping secrets and the power of truth. Secrets can damage our sense of self and our relationships. Even so, Jane Isay has found, people survive learning the most disturbing facts that have been hidden from them. And secret keepers are relieved when they finally reveal themselves—even the things they are ashamed of—to the people they care about. Much depends, Isay writes, on the way of telling and the way of hearing. Jane Isay was both a secret finder and a secret keeper. After fifteen years of marriage her husband admitted he was gay, but together they decided to keep it a secret for the sake of their two sons. Building on her personal experience, sixty intimate interviews, and extensive research into the psychology of secrets, Isay shows how the pain of secrets can be lightened by full disclosure, genuine apology, and time. Sometimes the truth sunders relationships, but often it saves them. Powered by detailed stories and Isay's compassionate analysis, Secrets and Lies reveals how universal secrets are in families. The big ones—affairs, homosexuality, parentage, suicide, abuse, hidden siblings—can be ruinous at first, but the effects need not last forever, and Isay shows us what makes the difference. With specific guidelines for those who keep secrets and those who find them out, Isay's book reveals the art of surviving a secret.

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